Divorce / Discernment Counseling
Are you or your spouse considering divorce?
The goal is for you to gain clarity and confidence about a direction for your future, based on a deeper understanding of your relationship and its possibilities for the future.
Discernment counseling is designed to help you really consider your options before making this difficult decision.
Discernment Counseling is different from couples counseling in that the goal is not to fix the problems in your relationship, but rather to determine if they are fixable.
Together, we will explore whether you and your spouse would like to try to restore your marriage to health, move toward divorce, or take a time out and make this decision later.
You come in as a couple, but the most important work occurs with me one-on-one. Why? Because you and your spouse are starting out in different places. I respect the reasons for divorce, while trying to point out the possibilities of restoring the marriage to health. I will emphasize the importance of each of you seeing your own contributions to the problems and the possible solutions. This will be useful in future relationships, even if this one ends.
Discernment Counseling typically lasts one to five sessions. The first session is usually 2 hours, and the following sessions are 90 minutes. Discernment counseling ends when you have both decided whether you want to commit to couples counseling for a set amount of time, separate/divorce, or keep status quo for now.
“Feelings of worth can flourish only in an atmosphere where individual differences are appreciated, mistakes are tolerated, communication is open, and rules are flexible – the kind of atmosphere that is found in a nurturing family” Virginia Satir